What is narcissism? There are many, many, many books, blog posts, and articles written on the subject. We will explore the broad subject of what narcissism is in depth at a later time.

And if you’re reading this now, I’m sure you’ve already learned enough about the subject on your own and first-hand, up close, and personal. The question I’m here to answer at the moment is how to deal with a narcissist on a spiritual level.  Because nobody else wants to talk about that.

How many of us can actually say that we beat the narcissist? Or the gaslighter, or the manipulator? The one who wears the crown of his pathological delusions of grandeur.

If you have, you’ve been through hell and deserve to wear the damned crown.

The Maddened King will get his way no more, and you will rule.  Yourself if no one else, because that is all you want. That is what he has been trying to rule and control – you. Ruling over him would be a gift from the gods.

They say don’t give them any reaction. “They” say a lot of things, those folks who like to give advice about things they haven’t lived through. Usually, technically, theoretically, and clinically, it is good advice. But one-size does not fit all. It’s usually “Get out of that situation or environment.” That doesn’t work for everyone’s circumstances, does it?

So, let’s go back to “no reaction”. Sometimes it works, other times, not so much.  Along the way, you try other methods. You have learned some very unhealthy coping mechanisms, haven’t you? Hiding within yourself, self-preservation, picking your self-esteem up off the floor, maybe even picking yourself up off the floor literally at times. It’s not really living, though is it? It’s just existing, being subjected to the maddened king’s whims, mood swings, craziness and nonsense…. Just hoping to get through the day and praising all your various gods and goddesses when he goes to sleep. And that’s not even the worst-case-scenario.

Narcissists want a reaction. From you. That part is true of what “they” say. Should you have to go through this? No. But if you choose (it is your choice, as you well know. I don’t encourage or recommend it) to anyway, you’re going to need to be prepared, protected, and to have some hope. You don’t have to match his rage and fury. That only fuels the fire. He feeds off your energy, your reaction, your misery. And God help you if you’re an empath. You want to fix him. You’re a fixer. But you can’t fix him. He doesn’t see anything wrong that needs to be fixed.

You’ve tried everything. I know you have. Tried reasoning, begging, pleading, rationalizing, trying to heal him, trying to get him to see the truth and the light, prayed for him, tried to save him. You know inside is an insecure damaged little boy wearing a scary costume, hell-bent on wreaking havoc and damaging everything he comes in contact with. Especially the one he is closest to. You are the closest, handiest target. You’ve tried praising him, complimenting him, catering to his oversized ego, as just another survival technique. And each word lie feels like poison on your tongue, because you know how pathetic he really is.

Or is it really a monster? You’ve seen that too. He knows damn good and well what he’s doing. You have tried dominating him, controlling him, compelling him. How did that work out for you? Yeah, I know. You can’t break him – he’s already broken.

She broke your throne and she cut your hair

And from your lips she drew the hallelujah

You may have tried sex to appease his inner demons. That works for about as long as the sex lasts or until you are drained as physically as you already are emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. You may have even tried singing hymns to temporarily subdue the best within. That works until the song is over.It’s a nightmare on a loop.

Well, maybe there's a god above

But all I've ever learned from love

Was how to shoot somebody who outdrew ya

You have tried improving yourself, doing inner-work, shadow-work, meditation, working on your aura and chakras, anything to help you deal with everything that you shouldn’t have to be dealing with in the first place. It’s not your problem, but yet it is.  And here we are.  At the end of our rope. And there was nothing wrong with you in the first place. See that yet?

You say I took the name in vain

I don't even know the name

But if I did, well really, what's it to you?

There's a blaze of light in every word

It doesn't matter which you heard

The holy or the broken Hallelujah

He sees what he wants to see. He makes others believe what he wants them to believe. He hears only what he wants to hear. And at the same time, he makes you look like you’re stupid, out of your mind, delusional, you can’t do anything right, all of that and more. And he’s so damn good at it. What’s he doing wrong? Why can’t anyone else see what is really going on? Why won’t anyone else help you? Isn’t there anything you can do?

What about beating him at his own game? There is no winning that game. No rules, no winners, no happily ever after. No happy ending for anyone.

However, the story is not finished, and you can write the rest of how it will go.

You can get him by the balls, and he will never even know it.

And if you’re lucky, you make it out alive. If you’re luckier, you’ll make it out with your sanity mostly intact.

And if you have a team of spirits who have a very particular set of skills, then you might get to watch the mighty get brought down and look up to you. The tables indeed can and will turn.

Hallelujah

Necessity is the mother of invention, as I have said many times. And you already know this yourself from experience. This oil has been a long time in the making and the awful journey there was a gift from my spirits.They’re pretty badass. So am I. And so are you. And your spirits are more badass than his.  And that scares him. And his spirit(s). Because that is what we are dealing with here. In case I need to spell it out:

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

-Ephesians 6:12, KJV

About The Maddened King Oil:

This oil is crafted with some ingredients that were difficult to find, and are blessed with prayer and intent to radiate and magnify the pure and simple undeniable Truth, reflect only what is real, and trumpet the message via holy messenger with an announcement that cannot be ignored or twisted. You know what it is. And that means the maddened king will reign no more.

We’re not talking about commanding, controlling, compelling, dominating, harnessing, leashing, punishing, revenge, hexing, cursing, and so on. The approach here is the simple, undeniable Truth. Some may say, “Well, everyone’s truth is different. Your truth may not be his truth.” No, let’s call it what it is. There is only one Truth. Other people’s individual “truths” that are tailored to their personal style are nothing more than perceptions. Perception can be reality for us. But there is only one set of facts. Fact is Truth, but not all truths are facts. Someone’s “truth” may not be fact. We’re getting too hung up on millennial buzzwords here that have warped the definition of truth. Our mind shapes our reality. The narcissist’s reality is skewed, stretched, and misshapen to suit them. Because their “truth” or perception is warped.  And so they try to make yours the same. Don’t lose sight of the Truth. You may forget it. You may get so used to the alternate version that it becomes “normal”. What you allow will continue and will be considered acceptance by you. So, it’s “OK” for them to continue as they have been.

And for crying out loud, you need to cut the cord that affects you. I know, you live with the person, even love them when they are not this Mr. Hyde version of Dr. Jekyll. When they are not wearing their maddened king crown. You’ve seen it and remember it, know that good person is in there somewhere. And they take advantage of that, your softness, your weakness. You may even be soul mates. But you have to cut the cord that is draining you dry. Cut the cord that is causing your reaction. Because your reaction is feeding the narcissist, making them stronger and more able to control you. So, while I’m not saying that you need to cut this person out of your life completely (because sometimes that just is not an option you can choose at the moment), you can cut the cord with precision so that their actions no longer make you feel miserable, crazy, unbalanced, enraged, doubtful of yourself and everything you know to be True, and so on. When they lose control of you, what else do they have? Let the Spirits deal with them. Leave it alone as much as possible so the Spirits can do their work. When did you notice you’ve stopped growing, or that you’ve ceased to have dreams and goals, or that you have lost the ability to concentrate, enjoy the small joys in life, or that the smallest tasks seem monumental? Have you stopped hearing from your ancestors and Spirit Guides? Have you remembered to tend to them regularly? Did even you notice until now the narcissist has been keeping you down? Keeping you so preoccupied, worried, insecure, and disabled? Please read more about my Cord-Cutting work and keep it in mind as an option. http://www.barefootwitcheryshoppe.com/cord-cutting-working-rootwork-service/

If you haven’t noticed until now, it is probably because you are an empath. No, you’re not a bad person for not seeing this sooner. If you are an empath, or are so closely tied to this person, you are going to feel all their emotions, their inner turmoil, the madness, rage, all of that misshapen nonsense. And that is part of what keeps you on edge, expecting the worst possible scenario at any moment. (That and because you’ve seen it before and know the smell of a storm before the first clouds even appear on the horizon.) You are more tuned in to what is going on with them than you are with what is going on with you or around you. Anticipating the next meltdown or tantrum. You need to cut that cord.

Back to The Maddened King oil - I have some suggestions, as well. This oil can be used on anything your intended target will touch, sleep upon, walk in, or wear. You can employ it safely and under the radar. You can use it on any type of candle, especially white, black, grey, blue, or purple. The bottle can also be a jar spell within itself, if you wish. You can put his name or picture in it. The King chess piece represents him; he is confined within this bottle with nothing but my secret ingredients and a mirror to keep him company. His crown of power and authority rests safely outside the bottle. It is yours. Break it if you wish-smash it with a hammer, add it to the bottle, keep it for your own talisman, it is up to you. The seeds included in each bottle are special and took a while to find and receive. What are they? They help. They do what they do. Consider them your seeds of hope, and know your power will grow and his will diminish ad wither.You may choose to plant them if they remain in the bottle after the oil is gone. If you do, offer what grows to Santa Marta La Dominadora and thank her. She will know I sent you.

Every bottle is made-to-order, prayed over, and blessed before it is shipped. All of my oils are, but this one a little extra. It is made for you.

I also highly recommend looking towards your own inner healing, as well. I offer products and services that can help you with this, because I know what you’re going through. Please take a moment to read one of my recent blog posts titled Kintsugi before you go much further. You can deal with the narcissist all you want, but you need to take care of yourself first and foremost. And it cannot wait until later, after you have dealt with him.It’s the only way you’re going to come out ahead. I cannot stress the importance of that enough.

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***This disclaimer applies to all products, supplies, and services I provide. I am not trying to play God or play doctor. I am an ethical spiritual worker.I am not Dr. Phil, although I highly respect and admire him, his opinions, and his work. Nor am I a first responder, policeman, life-coach, doctor, therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, psychologist, or attorney.Spiritual work such as this or any kind is no substitute for professional help. Narcissism and gaslighting is domestic abuse – if not physically, then emotionally and mentally. I never suggest, recommend, or advise someone in such circumstances to remain in that environment or situation. If you can safely remove yourself from that situation, do so. Period. If you need a counselor to help guide you through this and help you with your emotions, mental state, and the psychological damage done to you by someone else, please seek such help and advice from a professional. That’s not me; I’m just a Rootworker and I provide spiritual products and services. If you or your children are in danger, get yourself and them to a place of safety immediately first and foremost. Please seek out help from those trained to provide it, such as women’s shelters or crisis centers. Involve the police if needed. Get legal advice from a lawyer. Attorneys are knowledgeable and paid a lot of money to learn about the law; don’t seek legal, psychological, or medical advice from someone who is not educated and trained to give it. TAKE REAL-WORLD, REAL-LIFE MEASURES FIRST AND WORRY ABOUT HOODOO, ROOTWORK, OR ANY KIND OF SPIRITUAL WORK LATER.Products, services, or opinions I provide are not intended to be any substitute for professional legal, medical, or psychological advice or treatment in any way.I recommend you search for phone numbers of facilities, agencies, or professionals locally to you who can assist you, and some can even communicate via text if you aren’t able to speak on the phone out loud to someone. Some places will understand key words or codes if you are in danger, such as ordering a particular drink in a bar or ordering a certain kind of pizza over the phone. You may also find helpful information in posters in gas station or truck stop restrooms. If you have difficulty finding what you need, have someone you trust help you or call 911 in the U.S. for direction. Spiritual work is NOT for such extreme situations, dire circumstances, or emergencies. Always have a backup plan.I’m not trying to leave you hanging, this is simply the extent of the advice I am legally able to provide you with.

https://www.crisistextline.org/abuseText CONNECT to 741741

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE)

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