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Relationship Workings, FAQ's and Tips


Reconciliation Workings

Here I am going to share with you some questions that I normally ask when doing relationship work for a client, as well as why the questions and their answers make a difference for you personally and your goals and outcomes.I’m also going to share some of the most-recommended and most popular workings that I do for relationships and why they may be right for you. Something I have told many clients is, “If the love was ever there and if it was ever real, there is always hope.”

Some questions I normally ask when doing an initial consultation for reconciliation workings:

1.How long were you together?

1(b).Were the two of you ever in a relationship to begin with?That should sometimes be the first question and will require a different type of working.

2.How long have you been apart?

3.Do the two of you still speak to each other or have any type of communication?

4.Is there any possibility of communication, or have you been blocked completely on social media, etc.?

5.Are either of you currently in a relationship with anyone else?

6.What was the reason for the breakup?(Who initiated it, what types of problems were there, was there abuse involved, etc.)

7.Are there any children involved?

8.Have you done any other workings (spells) up until now, and if so what? (Or even if you hired another Rootworker in the past what did they do for you, was there any change, and are you still performing (or still having a Rootworker perform) work for this issue? (No, I do not need to know the names of any other practitioner you have worked with or are working with. I simply need to know what was done/is being done, because it may have an impact on anything I can do for you, either positively or negatively.)

9.Does the other person even want to be with you?Be honest with yourself. If they honestly and adamantly do NOT, it’s not likely going to go successfully, and you’ll end up with heartache and possibly a restraining order. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? You deserve more than that.


These questions aren’t meant to be nosy or intrusive.They are necessary and important factors that can affect the outcome of your working.

If you weren’t together for very long, you may need to look at the solidity of the foundation of the relationship and whether or not it would be in your best interest to pursue or not.

If you have been apart for a long time, effect may be more difficult to achieve, but not impossible.

If you still speak to each other or have communication, there is a greater chance of success.If they have blocked you, be sure that you are not stalking. Be honest with yourself. I have had clients who have found themselves slapped with a restraining order from the target or an infuriated spouse. I do not condone breaking the law or stalking.

If they are currently in a relationship with someone else, you might need to consider a Breakup/Separation working first.I’ve heard may people say, “Well, he’s just waiting for the right time to ask his wife for a separation/divorce.He is going to leave her for me.”

Bullshit. No he’s not. Not without a little magickal interference.

If you are currently in a relationship with someone else, ask yourself how you intend to achieve two relationships at once, and is that fair to your partner or to yourself? I won’t judge you, but the outcome may be difficult to achieve if your goal(s) and long-term plan for “what if I actually get what I want” happens.If you’re in a relationship that is not ideal, you should be making effort to change that first. You can’t ride two horses with one ass and expect it to go smoothly.

Are there children involved between yourself and the person you wish to be with? Sometimes this does not make any difference, sometimes it does, either positively or negatively, just depending each unique situation.

What was the reason for the breakup?

Miscommunication or lack of communiation, fear of commitment, baggage from the past, bad experiences with past relationships, or any other regular relationship-type problems – this can easily be remedied if both parties are willing to work on it, and Rootwork can enhance the effect and energy towards a positive outcome.

Family/Friends interfering – If there is some reason that the two of you cannot be together simply because of interfering family and friends, that doesn’t hold much water.

Except for in cases of arranged marriages which can be difficult to get out of because of religious/traditional/cultural reasons. Not saying impossible, but difficult.

Cheating – Was it you? A working for that person to forgive you and trust you again should be considered. Will you cheat again, or continue the pattern of behavior? A working for you to stop that pattern of behavior along with effort on your part is needed.

Was it them? “Well, he/she said they’re sorry and will never do it again.”Stop and think before continuing if this is the type of person you truly feel that you deserve and want to be in a relationship with, and are you willing to chance it happening again? If so, proceed.

Abuse (mental, emotional, physical) – Were you the person who abused the other person? Stop here unless you are ready to do whatever it takes to never do it again. Not just to convince the other person you’ll never do it again or convince them you were sorry. Convincing them is not enough when there’s no intent to keep your promise that it will never happen again and you have no plan of action to get professional help. Was it the other person who abused you? First, make sure you and any children are safe first and foremost. Have you sought help from the proper authorities (police, places who help abused women or children and those in crisis) Is the person likely to continue the pattern of abuse again in the future if you get back together? If so, stop here. Just stop.

Have you or are you paying someone else to perform workings for you for this goal? I don’t need to know who your Rootworker is. I just need to know what you have done. As long as the intent and ultimate goal is the same, everything should be kosher. But if not, if there are workings that are going to clash or conflict with or not complement anything I do for you, I need to know about it first.And I would seriously think about starting over with a clean slate. Some clients are “Rootworker Shoppers”, kind of like doctor-shoppers who go to several different doctors for several different Rx’s or opinions. It usually ends up in trouble with a lot of chaos and conflicting opinions and treatments.If you drag me into that to do work for you, it’s just going to end up in a mess of muddled energies, and I don’t want to be a part of that.Too many cooks spoil the broth. And you won’t be happy with the broth.

So, as you can see, relationship workings are not a one-size-fits-all type of thing. It’s not a fast food restaurant either, where you order one spell/working, and expect everything to manifest in a tidy box within a certain amount of time.

No, it takes work on your part also, commitment, determination, focus, energy, and will.Along with, many times, more than just one working for lasting results, and to focus on more than one aspect of the situation. Not many situations that clients present to me are a cut & clear, black & white, textbook type of example. Life is complicated. Like a gemstone has many facets, so do we as people, and the situations in our lives.

Now, I want to provide you with encouragement and empowerment. If something is not the way you want it to be, that is what Spiritual work is for, to empower you to change things.Like any other treatment, it does not work for every person or every situation. But many times, it does.I will be offering another blog post on why spells/workings may not have the desired effect and outcome towards your goals later.

I’m going to share with you some of my most recommended and most requested workings:

Love Uncrossing – I almost always recommend this working first and foremost. The purpose of this working is to un-do all the negativity, miscommunication, misunderstandings, and even hexing that has gone on with your relationship. If you feel as though someone has been working against you or your relationship with someone, this provides cleansing, uncrossing, and banishes any negative energy within the relationship.It also works to open the road for success to flow and enhance the solidity of the foundation of your relationship. Banishing the negative and enhancing the positive aspects of the relationship is always important.It is meant to reinforce commitment, love, happiness, honesty, forgiveness, and fidelity. http://www.barefootwitcheryshoppe.com/love-uncrossing-candle-spell-service-for-emotional-release-or-reconciliation/

Love Haunt Working – This is an excellent way to make sure someone is always thinking of you and you are always on their mind in a positive way.It’s also a good way to get communication started or re-established, when the possibilityof communication is not there or is minimal.It is intended to place you in their foremost thoughts and get your message across to them. Sometimes this is all that is needed to give them that magickal nudge they need to take action. http://www.barefootwitcheryshoppe.com/love-haunt-working-stay-on-their-mind-for-returning-lost-love-influencing-someones-mind-for-love/

Reconciliation Working – This working is to help solidify your relationship and enhance commitment.Once you have reconciled with someone, you want to make sure it stays that way and things continually get better from there.It helps to strengthen the bond and reinforce the reconciliation. http://www.barefootwitcheryshoppe.com/reconciliation-figural-candle-spell-performed-for-you/

I’m also going to include the link to my Tied & Nailed working, which similar but more focused on long-term commitment. http://www.barefootwitcheryshoppe.com/tied-up-and-nailed-figural-candle-spell-performed-for-you/

Sweet Jar – This is particularly good for long-term goals.It simply does what it says, sweetens their feelings and disposition towards you. It complements any love or reconciliation working. http://www.barefootwitcheryshoppe.com/sweet-jar-for-love-returning-lost-lover-blessing-a-union-healing-broken-relationships-reinforcing-the-bond-new-love/

I also offer a variety of other love, reconciliation, and relationship based workings, just depending on your particular situation, need, goal, and comfort-level.

The Intranquil Spirit working is probably the most requested service that I offer for returning a lost love to you.However, it isn’t for everyone. More information can be found within the listing for that service, along with a future blog post dedicated to this subject specifically.I have alternatives, as well, which petition other Saints and Spirits.


Thank you for reading about relationship and reconciliation workings. Please feel free to set up a consultation with me if you need more help, or I can be reached at barefootwitcheryshoppe@yahoo.com.

Be blessed!

Sherry Scott



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